Survivor Benefits Blog
Thoughts on moving forward and finding meaning in life again.
What Choice Do I have?
What Choice do I have? “It’s this or die ! What choice do I have?”- Rob Wigsten This was Rob’s response whenever anyone would call him brave while fighting his cancer. Looking back at his response I understand it even more, because my journey with grief often feels this way. Although on so…
My Tree
My Tree ” Storms make trees take deeper roots,”- unknown My late husband was an incredible story teller. I always knew where he was whenever we went to parties, because all I would have to do was listen for the laughter of a crowd of people. Rob would be in the center of…
I See You Everywhere-A Love Letter
I See You Everywhere!-A Love Letter ” It hurts to remember, but I do not wish to forget!”-Lori Wigsten Dear Rob, When I first lost you, it was hard to do anything without having something to remind me of you and bring me instantly to tears. It could be the familiar or…
I Miss You The Most
I Miss You the Most “And ever has it been known that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.” Khalil Gibran, The Prophet I have suffered a lot of losses in my life, starting with my grandfather at 16 years old. Then came my mother…
IF YOU WERE HERE
IF YOU WERE HERE “Being depressed about what’s to come, would only rob me of the good stuff I have.” Denny – A character on Virgin River Been thinking about Rob a lot lately. I think about him all the time, but this time is different. Now is my turn to be in…
Getting Unstuck!
“There is no security on this earth: there is only opportunity’- Douglas Mac Arthur “Freedom means the opportunity to be what we never thought we would be.”- Daniel Boorstin It has been awhile since I last wrote in this blog. I was feeling stuck, like I was not making any real forward progress. This felt like…
Sometimes it is OK not to be OK.
“Sometimes it is OK not to be OK.” -Lori Wigsten While on an online forum of writers, I came across a post by another widow. Her husband had passed away less than 6 months ago. She was blaming herself for not getting enough writing done since his loss. Others were offering kind words to…
Dreams
Dreams “When you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open up in your life.” — Eckhart Tolle Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about my late husband and what losing him taught me about life. At first, I could only think about what I had lost. When I lost him so many of…
SCARED
Scared “Stop going to a dry well, and expecting water.”-Clarice When I first became a widow, there were lots of things I feared. Forgetting the sound of my husband’s voice. Not being able to fix certain things when they broke in my house. I worried… Who would take care of the cars? How…
Get Over It- I Think Not
Get Over It- I Think Not! I think there are so many people out there who believe when you lose someone you should just get over it. It has been over 13 years for me. I am not over it. With that being said, I can see I have learned how to manage it as…
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