Author: Lori Wigsten
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Moving Forward
Moving forward! “The best way to predict your future is to create it.” —Abraham Lincoln Although the loss of my husband was the most difficult and painful experience I have ever had. I know the person I was before the loss is different than the person I am now. I have learned to…
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I Am Single, What Now?
I Am Single, What Now? “It does not matter how slowly you go as long that you do not stop.” —Confucius Thinking of myself as a single person took time and, at first I was not sure how to be single. After all, it had been almost twenty years since I held…
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When Rain Comes Down on You!
When Life Rains Down on You! “Whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.”- Max Ehrmann Even after 13 years since I first lost my husband, there are still times that knock me right back to where I was years ago. I have felt…
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Asking for Help
Asking For Help When I first was widowed, my world became very dark, and my emotions were on a crazy roller coaster ride. First, I would feel ok as I walked around the world of the living doing ordinary things like going to work, grocery shopping, etc. During these times I often felt like an…
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Memories
Memories “The time will come when [his] memory will bring a smile to your lips before it brings a tear to your eyes.”― Joe Biden, Promise Me, Dad: A Year of Hope, Hardship, and Purpose I wanted to start with this quote because the words ring so true for me. When I first started on my journey…
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FIRSTS
Firsts “Sometimes I feel like I am in a battle with my own heart.”- Lori Wigsten One thing I had to learn as a widow was in order for me to start to feel normal again, I had to get through most of the first times without my late husband. This was one…
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Summertime
Summertime Before meeting my late husband, summertime for me had always been a time for a celebration of warm days spent outside and a break from the long days of cold and darkness that soon would follow. It had been one of the best times of the year for me. After meeting…
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Loving What Is
Loving What IS A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering.”- Katie Byron Been thinking a lot about “Loving what is right now.” With Rob’s death, believe it or not, I have been able to accept a lot more things that are…
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I GET TO…..
I GET TO……. Sometimes being a widow and alone really gets to you. You feel just plain tired of the responsibility of doing everything alone, all the cleaning, cooking, repairing the house, fielding all the phone calls, taking care of the pets, and caring for your children (even though you love them and could…
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Get Ready for the Shift
“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out…” Walter Winchell One of the hardest things for me to accept after my husband passed was what I like to call the shift. This shift is not one seen right away but happens over time. It takes…
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